Asexual is the lack of sexual attraction to others or a low interest in sexual activity. Some people consider asexuality to be their sexual orientation, and others describe it as an absence of sexual orientation.
You recently met someone at a bar with whom you are extremely stoked. Or you may have been speaking with a cute Tinder user while omitting the word “asexual” from your bio. When and how should you emerge?
There is no universally applicable rule.
According to Benoit, “It depends on how well you know the person.”
“You could find it simpler to tell them in person,” she advises, “if you’re at ease with the individual and you’ve already come to know one other.” “However, doing it over a text or an online message is completely acceptable. In fact, doing so may make it simpler to exchange resources.
Many people, according to Benoit, are unaware of what asexuality is or what it entails in terms of dating. You can send links that will do the explaining for you via text messaging.
How and when to come out as asexual
“There’s something I’d like to share with you before we meet up: I’m asexual. Specifically, heteroromantic and asexual! Many people don’t know what that means so I’m going to paste a link below for you to check out.”
“We haven’t talked about this yet, but I’m demisexual, which means I only experience sexual desire after really getting to know someone. I’ve really enjoyed talking with you and would love to continue doing so, but want to make sure you understand what I’m physically up for at this moment.”
“Have you ever seen the show ‘BoJack Horseman’? Well, Todd and I have something in common beyond our devilishly good looks… We’re both asexual. I’m gonna paste a link about asexuality so you can learn more. After reading, feel free to ask me any questions you might have.”